A Happy Old Age

A little more tired at the close of the day,
a little less anxious to have our own way.
A little less care for gain or gold,
a little more zest for the days of old.
A broader view and a saner mind,
a little more thought for all mankind.
A little more love for the friends of youth,
a little more zeal for established truth.
A little more charity in our views,
a little less thirst for the latest news.
A little more leisure to sit and dream,
a little more real those things unseen.

Author Unknown

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Writers Block or Just Spring?

Subscribing to various writing web sites like I do, I’ve read much about writer’s block. I’ve always figured that writer’s block is when you don’t know what to write, and I don’t have that affliction. I have so many of things I’d love to write about – I just don’t sit down and get started. Would you call that writer’s block or writer’s lethargy or writer’s too busy?

Or is it that age-old affliction, spring fever? Now that I think back, I can remember those last three months of the school year when I was hopeless at sitting down and sticking with my assignments. (My sympathies go out to teachers everywhere at this time of year.)

Can it really be four days since I last posted? No, I’m not lying in bed suffering, though Monday wasn’t the greatest day. I woke up with a backache and a tooth ache. Joint pain is one symptom of leukemia, but also of arthritis and my doctor tells me my joints have plenty of that. Thankfully these pains are quite manageable.

Monday morning we discovered there’s a ‘beaver leaver’ on the loose. My neighbor phoned at 8:30 am to tell me there’s a beaver sitting beside the slough between us and the highway. Someone must have left it there; I should go see it. She’d already been, had even talked to it, but it seemed so lost and bewildered it just rubbed its face with its paw and didn’t move.

So Bob and I jumped into the car and went to have a look. Sure enough, an adult beaver was nosing around on the grassy slope between the road and the slough. When we stopped the car and talked to it, the creature just looked at us; it really did seemed drugged.

My guess is someone who didn’t want it on his pond shot it with a tranquillizer or fed it something to knock it out, then dumped it here. The beaver sat in the grass beside the slough all morning but never went in the water.  But this slough will dry up in a month and then what would it do? Plus there are only a few shrubby willows nearby. So I called the Wildlife Federation and they were going to come and get the animal in the evening; we should just monitor it until then.

By afternoon the animal woke up enough to get in the water. By mid-afternoon it was behaving much like a beaver would and dived when Bob came to check on it. In the evening I drove the grandchildren over and we watched it swimming and diving. The water’s shallow and it stayed right in the ditch – the deepest part – so it was easy to see.

It’s gone now. Maybe it didn’t like being a celebrity and decided to head for home? Or the river– a 15 mile trip if he knows his directions.

Tuesday I cooked at the Villa and thankfully felt quite well all day. Yesterday I went to a friend’s greenhouse and bought bedding plants; in the afternoon I filled a couple of planters. A kind friend had ordered a tub of flowers as my birthday present, so I collected that as well. (Thank you, Sandra!)

Later I did some digging in one corner of my garden (Operation rescue: search & destroy quack grass roots) and set out four tomato plants. Little by little I intend to reclaim my old perennial patch from the quack grass that invaded last summer. I’m working on my front flower bed today and unearthed three bemused toads in the process.

Yesterday morning I looked out and saw three golden eagles soaring over the field south and a bit west of our trailer. Beautiful sight! They were closer to the slough so my thoughts went to the beaver, but I didn’t see the birds landing like they would if they’d found some carrion. (I think eagles eat carrion.) We rarely see them; it was a wonderful treat.

Makes me think of those inspiring words of Isaiah 40:31:
“But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”

We have four pair of swallows nesting around our little property and the wrens recently reclaimed their house on the clothesline pole. All day long we hear the songs of wrens, orioles, robins. Brown thrashers, pine siskins, and goldfinches frequent the feeder outside our dining room window. Could we just stop time for a month now? (Oh, but the poor students and teachers! School doesn’t end up here until the last week in June.)

In my discussions with Friesen Press the question of graphics for my book has surfaced. I chose two photos from Shutterstock for my front and back cover, but I can also insert ten graphics (pictures or illustrations, B&W or color) for free and they’ll insert more for $5 each. So I contacted a genuine artist and she wants $25 apiece for drawing even fairly simple pictures. I can’t blame her; it does take time.  But…

So I’ve changed hats; these days I’m doing a few illustrations for my book. And it DOES take time – which I have more of than money. I don’t know what my readers will think, but my grandchildren love my pictures. ☺

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Bowl of Life Seriously Shattered

A few days ago I posted the poem “Broken” where I likened a bowl that cracked at work last week to the suddenness of a traffic accident. Last week I learned there’s more than one way a dish can suddenly split in half.

On the 13th I came home from my shift at the Villa resolved that I was going to finally have a physical checkup to see why I’ve been so fatigued all winter, why my thinking seems at times so fuzzy, why I get so out of breath and my nerves burn so much. I put in a normal shift at work that day and my upper legs hurt all evening, somewhat like a bad sunburn.

I’ve been telling myself all winter I need to be more active, cut out coffee, etc., but Tuesday I decided these problems stem from something deeper than a sedentary lifestyle. So I phoned and made a doctor’s appointment, fearing MS, fibromyalgia, or some awful thing like that. Thursday I saw the doctor – a new one at our clinic – and he gave me forms for blood tests.

Because we had other things to do that day, I ended up putting the test off until last Tuesday morning. Wednesday before 9am I got a call from my doctor’s office. “The doctor wants to see you about your test results. Can you come in for 11:45am?”

I was surprised he even had the results that fast. “ Could I rather come in tomorrow?”

“He really wants to see you today.”

“Oh, dear.” Do I have an infection? Has he discovered I’m diabetic?  He was going to test my B12 levels. Has he discovered that I’m seriously anaemic? Or is my white blood cell count too high, which would be indicative that my body’s fighting something? Like cancer?

I scolded myself. “Don’t imagine the worst right away.”

My daughter was going to town that day so I caught a ride in with her and looked after her two youngest children while she shopped. And she waited at the doctor’s office with me. The doctor told me my white blood cell count was extremely high. I knew he was looking for tumours when he checked my lymph glands, liver and spleen, but said everything feels normal. He wanted to repeat the blood test for confirmation. He’d ordered one other test done, he said, but he couldn’t find – or didn’t have – the results yet.

Then we went to have dinner and while we were eating he phoned me. I could forget about that repeat blood test; he’d located or gotten the results of the last test. And he told me I have leukemia.

He told me he’d already called a blood doctor and that fellow wanted me to have an ultrasound of my innards to see if there was any sign they were affected. I should come pick up the form at his office.  When I got there the receptionist said the doctor had told her it was “urgent” so she’d booked it for the next morning. (Around here that’s amazing!)

CLL is what he wrote on the requisition form. We’ve read that Chronic lymphocytic leukemia – if that’s what it turns out to be – is a common kind in older people and it progresses very slowly.

So I’m sitting tight and hoping for good news from my doctor tomorrow once he has the test results. Then I’ll likely need to visit this haematologist – and maybe the Cancer Clinic – to find out where to from here.

On Friday I told my husband I feel like I’ve been blown out of the water and landed in a giant marshmallow where everything’s fuzzy and I can’t think about anything yet. But since then I’ve gone from “This isn’t happening” to “No big deal. I could live another 30 years” to “Shriek! I’m dying!” to “So what else is new?” I’m sure the picture will clarify after a few more doctor’s appointments.

So the bowl that holds my sweetness has cracked in half; in one way nothing has changed yet everything has changed. Funny thing, though: the sweetness isn’t lost; God is pouring it into everyday life all around me. The beauty of nature, the affection of my family, the laughter of my grandchildren – each thing tastes sweeter now. When you lose sight of tomorrow, everything you see and feel today can be so precious.

In the midst of this I’m preparing my manuscript; I’ve been giving it a final edit before publication and choosing suitable illustrations. So my posts may be sporadic for awhile but I want you to know your prayers and moral support at this time mean very much to us.

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Dear Grandma: How I Wish…

On Wednesday I went along into the city with my daughter and her youngest two children and counted my blessings again for the relationship I have with my grandchildren. When they hopped out of the van, they wanted to “hold Grandma’s hand”; in the stores they wanted to walk with me while Mom shopped.

Whenever we’re together my grandchildren want me to do puzzles with them or read to them; even jump on the trampoline with them – which I have declined due to my advanced years. ☺ We talk about all kinds of things, go exploring together and just enjoy each other — making precious memories!

My grandmother never realized what she was missing. Or if she did, she didn’t know how to go about bridging the gap.

One day my granddaughter said something about whether my mom was mean to me.  I told her, “No, my Mom wasn’t mean to me. My grandmother was mean, but not my mom.”

“Oh, no,” she said. “Grandmas are NEVER mean.”

I’m so glad she has that perspective. And perhaps if I could have looked at the whole situation through Grandma’s eyes I might have understood a little better why she was so distant from us.

I grew up with my aunt and uncle, my aunt being the sister of my birth father (Dad V). Thus my grandma was doubly present in my life: at times she’d come and stay a few weeks with my aunt; at times I’d be spending a couple of weeks with my birth family and she’d be visiting right then. None of us Vance children looked forward to having her around.

I don’t remember my grandma ever taking me –or any of us– on her knee, reading to us, or showing any real interest in us. She probably thought we were a bunch of wild rip-and-tears who needed discipline in the worst way, because one day when we scrapped and got it from Dad V, Grandma seemed so gleeful.

Mom F (my aunt) told me that when she was young and did something wrong, Grandma would send her up to her room, she’d miss supper, have to stay there until the children were in bed for the night, then Grandma would come up and spank her. That sounded pretty mean to me. Mom told me how it hurt when her mom “boxed their ears” with the hand that wore her heavy wedding ring, something she did regularly.

But Grandma was a widow who taught school for a living, or kept house for bachelors, and she had to cope with raising her children alone. So maybe life made her bitter. A relative who knew grandma as adult to adult thought she was quite nice.

I’m sure she didn’t like my Mom V, either. Mom F told me Grandma opposed the idea of our dad marrying our mom, so maybe she didn’t care much for us, either. When she’d visit she tell us about how smart our cousin “little Laurie Anne” was. Perhaps she thought she’d inspire us, but you can imagine it didn’t go over too well. Mom F would console us later: “Grandma probably tells Laurie Anne and her brothers how smart you are, too.” (She didn’t, I found out years later.)

Being she thought so highly of those cousins, I thought she’d be nice to them, but “little Laurie Anne” told me years later that Grandma just didn’t seem to like children. “You’d be walking by her and she’d stick out her foot on purpose to make you trip.” (I avoided her whenever I could, so never had that experience.)

As a teen I concluded my grandma was kind of sadistic. It seemed to give her pleasure when she saw us being punished or our mother being beaten. What made this impression of her so much more confusing was that Grandma was devoutly religious (Reorganized Latter Day Saints). I used to tell people with some sarcasm, “There isn’t a one in the family who followed her in that. We all knew Grandma better than we knew her religion and none of us wanted to be like her.” Looking back after I became a Christian, I wish I could have talked with her about some of this, but she was gone by then.

I remember Grandma singing in her crackly voice early in the morning, “Six o’clock and time to get up,” when I was trying to sleep. She’d get after me to come and do this or that, but never did she sit down and ask, “How are you?”

Grandma probably didn’t have much money for gifts for the grands, but I don’t remember one gift, card, or even a “Happy Birthday” from her. (Mind you, we were never a card-giving bunch.) Times have changed; today we wouldn’t think of letting a birthday go by uncelebrated.

I sometimes think of my Grandma as my own grandchildren reach out to take my hand or bring stories for me to read. Maybe she was the product of an extremely harsh home or simply a child of her times, but I’m thankful for the great relationship I can enjoy with the little folks in my life. I’m glad they’ll have fonder memories of me when I’m gone.

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BROKEN

Sweetness: whipped cream heaped
high in glass bowl. Gentle
clink against another dish;
ominous crack. In an instant
undetected fault line splits dish.
Sweetness, laced with splinters,
oozes onto counter. Lost.
I grieve for the waste.

Thus may life be broken
in a moment: a squeal of brakes;
the shatter of a windshield;
a whole irreparably divided.
Sweetness, laced with splinters,
oozes onto pavement. Lost,
we grieve for the waste.

Buckle up.
Slow Down.
Drive safely.

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The Smell of Murder at Midnight

Yesterday morning’s Journal page:

I’ll admit it; we went to bed very late last night. That was my fault.

I’ve just written a book of poems and short stories and got a great evaluation from the publisher, Friesen Press, on Monday. One last ‘fine-tooth comb’ edit and it’s ready to roll – and what a thrill to pick a cover photo for my very own book! Thus I spent too long at the computer yesterday evening choosing images that I thought would be suitable for a book cover picture. Then I showed Bob the results of my search, so it was close to midnight when we were finally getting ready for bed.

We would have been able to sleep though this catastrophe anyway.

Have you perhaps driven through a town with a pulp and paper mill spewing out sulfurous fumes? Have you ever had a bag of onions go bad in a cupboard where you perchance forgot them for several months. You know the whiff you get when you open that bag and dispose of the stinking things? Have you had a gas leak in the house and smelled the odour they put in natural gas? Or sniffed some perfume gone rancid?

Now imagine all that rolled into one and think of sleeping through it. No way. We were wandering around outside at 1am, seeking some relief.

It’s not that we didn’t know there was a skunk hereabouts. Michelle actually saw one on our step and warned us. However, we never saw it again and, in a supreme act of wishful thinking, we assumed now that spring is here he would have ambled off into the woods beside us and we could all live in relative peace.

It appears said skunk, before he ambled off, started a hole at the edge of our trailer with thoughts of burrowing under – or maybe just hunting mice? However, this past week we caught no more traces of whiffs of skunk and our cats have been using that hole to prowl under the trailer – which they sure wouldn’t have done had there been an occupying skunk. Bob put a log over the hole to discourage this, too.

It was on the To Do list to fill in the hole and put an end to this nonsense.

Thus it may well be that the skunk lived elsewhere and just happened to be passing through the yard last night on his way home. Or maybe he happened to remember his past efforts and decided to see what had become of the burrow he’d started. And he checked around under our step, too, for old times’ sake.

Some people like to portray nature as a gentle force, even speak of “Mother Nature” and her care of the little critters out there. They say if we could get back to nature a bit more, life would be better and we’d live longer. Nevertheless, our Creator has blessed the pokey skunk with a powerful deterrent spray just in case there are altercations.

It’s hard to imagine that ANYTHING would want to attack and kill a skunk. I’ve read that great-horned owls will because their sense of smell is very poor. But we know this was no owl. A fox maybe, or a badger?

Anyway, something frightened that skunk in his journey past and when Bob opened the door he remarked on the aroma of skunk outside. In skunk’s apprehensive state, he remembered that old hole and chose to take refuge there. That we know. In fact it looks like he dug himself in frantically beside the log Bob had put there to keep him out. Or did something else dig in to follow him.

Something went in after him. That we smell.

Just before bed one of our cats wanted in urgently. And yes, I caught the familiar acrid smell, but surely our cats would never tackle a skunk. Angus came in and began sniffing all the registers. The bathroom was taking on a very bad smell, as if a skunk were coming up through the plumbing opening beside the vanity.

My hearing isn’t the best. Even with my hearing aids I didn’t hear the squealing Bob heard, but I did hear a number of thumps just a few minutes later. Slow to catch on, I assumed our cat Pookie was bumping around on the step outside, wanting in. I opened the door and in he rushed. Both cats began sniffing around the heat registers (set in the floor) and the trailer was now full of the stench.

I put old towels over all the register openings; it didn’t help much. We lit candles, opened windows and took refuge outdoors for while. The cats came, too. Out there we could catch a faint whiff from our farmer neighbour’s pig barn, but this was infinitely preferable to the reeking air inside.

Our bedroom is in the addition, on a cement base, so the skunk odour couldn’t come from below us. Enough came in through the hallway, but with windows open and ceiling fans running, I was able to get some sleep there later in the night. Bob chose the recliner in the living room, with all windows open and ceiling fan running.

I’m afraid the smell of murder at midnight is not only a right-then overpowering stench, but will linger for some time to come, too.

Friday afternoon note: It has. Sorry to be a day late posting this exciting news; we spent a good part of yesterday away from home.

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I Fear My Blog Has ADD

I’ve discovered my blog needs keywords.

Every now and then someone reminds me that I’m doing this blog all wrong. I read it in a book recently and again online: when starting a blog we should pick a subject we’re passionate about and blog about that. Choose, and use, keywords. Like mental health, cats, food.

My second blog, Swallow in the Wind, is pretty focused, being built around poetry and humorous anecdotes.  Keywords might be birds, weather, seasons, poems. My third blog, christinegoodnough.wordpress.com, is extremely focused: a weekly devotional for women.

But I’ve considered all the subjects this blog deals with. I’m enthused about, and write about, my home and family, my garden, our three cats, the Bible and Christian faith. It’s like a journal where I share musings, memories, opinions, angst. At times I deal with the subject of writing in general or my writing; poetry; history.

In other words, my posts bounce all over the place. The search engines, if they ever did notice my scribblings, have likely given up in despair. Do you others feed these things?

My family suggests from time to time that I might have ADD so maybe my blog does, too. What do you think? That gives me some direction: I could call this my alphabet soup blog. And finally I have keywords! Recipes: soup: alphabet. Or Mental health: deficiency, disorder. Now I just have to mention those somewhere in the text of every post I write.

Speaking of recipes, one day I did a Google Keyword search for food: cookies. Here are some numbers of searches people have done:

easy cookie recipes……………………. 135,000
chocolate chip cookies recipe……… 368,000
chocolate cookie recipes…………….. 450,000
oatmeal cookie recipe………………… 181,000
butter cookie recipe…………………… 135,000
Italian cookie recipes………………….  12,100
dog cookie recipes……………………… 27,100
pumpkin cookie recipe……………….. 18,100
peanut butter cookie recipe ………… 90,500

As I interpret this statistics, I see there are more pumpkins than Italians, and more dogs than either. Oatmeal is more desired than peanut butter in a cookie; chocolate or chocolate chip cookies are universally treasured. Not many want to bake cookies the easy way.

Now if some heartless researcher turns up a link between chocolate (especially as it appears in chip cookies) and ADD, we’re all sunk.

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